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07 October 2014

The Excellence of Gentleness towards Wife

A husband should treat his wife nicely and deal with her wisely, Our Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH‎ said:

Woman has been created from a rib and you cannot straighten her. If you wish to get benefit from her, you can do so with her crookedness. If you try to straighten her, you will break her and breaking a woman means divorcing her. [Sahih Muslim]

We therefore realise that some of her habits will be displeasing, but the husband should always remain patient and tolerant. The Holy Prophet Muhammad PUBH‎ said:

Amongst the true believers is he who possesses a nice character and is the most gentle with his wife.[Jami’ Tirmizi, Hadith 2621, V4, P278, Dar-ulFikr Beirut]


Dear Islamic Brothers! Those rebuking and even beating their wives should ponder over this blessed Hadith. To demonstrate your power over the one who is naturally weaker than you is not manliness, it is in fact the worst unmanliness. If the woman forgetfully makes a mistake, her husband should be lenient, patient and tolerant. As he gets many benefits from her, he should also tolerate her foibles (mistakes).

The merciful Prophet Muhammad PBUH‎ said:
A Muslim male can never have enmity for a Muslim female. He may dislike one of her habits but may find any other habit pleasing.[Sahih Muslim]

Rights of the Husband

The wife should also treat her husband in a good manner. The Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH said:

I swear by the One under Whose Omnipotence my life is, if there are wounds, in the husband's body from foot to head, from which pus and blood flow, and the woman licks them, still she has not fulfilled the husband’s rights.[Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 12614, V4, P318, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut]

Do not leave the home of even a Cruel Husband 

Those women who frequently fall out with their husbands over small matters and go to their parent’s home should listen attentively and try to act upon the following blessed Hadith with heart and soul.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH‎ said:

And (the wife) must not leave the house of her (husband) without his permission. If she does so, until she does not repent, Allah and His (innocent) angels send curse upon her.” Someone asked, “Even if the husband is cruel?” The Holy Prophet replied, “Even if he is cruel.
[Kanzul-Ummal, Hadith 44801, V16, P114, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut]

The Cause of most Women’s being in Hell?

Some women are extremely disobedient and ungrateful to their husbands. If they are offended even slightly, they forget all the previous kindnesses and favours and start cursing their husbands. Those women who often curse and annoy their husbands should repent immediately; once the Prophet of Allah was going to the Eid-Gah on Eid day.

He PBUH‎ passed by some women and said:
Oh women! Give charity as I have seen most of you in the Hell.” The women asked, “Ya Rasool-Allah ! What is the reason for this?” The Prophet of Allah replied, “You often curse and are ungrateful to your husbands.” [Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 304, V1, P123, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut]

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